DEAR ABBY: we am 35 and my father is 45. When we met, he weighed 375 pounds. He has now strike a 600-pound mark. we have 5 kids, a full-time pursuit and go to propagandize dual nights a week. He talks about losing weight, yet it's easier to speak about than indeed do. He was in a automobile collision that left him with behind problems, and on tip of that he has bad knees from sports.
The destiny doesn't demeanour promising. we know that one day he'll be cramped to bed -- we envision in a unequivocally nearby destiny -- and we will have to dump all to take caring of him. He is already contingent on me and a comparison kids to take caring of him since he's in pain all a time and can't physically do anything. He doesn't have insurance.
If we didn't have a family to take caring of, it competence not be as large of an issue. This is unequivocally depressing. we am meditative of saying a counselor. He has already told me that he won't go. Your submit would be severely appreciated. -- WIFE OF A BIG MAN
DEAR WIFE: Talk to a advisor right away. Unless we do something now, we will be impoverished and homebound with a ill father and 5 contingent children. Who enabled your infirm father to benefit all a weight?
His life depends on him being on a strict, essential nourishment regimen. Because he has no insurance, a self-help organisation could be a lifesaver. Overeaters Anonymous might be means to give we some superintendence and offer him romantic support. There are chapters nationwide, as nearby as your phone book, or hit them online during .
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, "Frank," and we have been together for 4 months. I'm 21 and he's 31. He was married before. This is my initial critical relationship.
Sometimes we get into exhilarated arguments since he's prepared to "plan for a future" while we usually wish to go with a flow. He thinks we don't take a attribute severely since I'm not prepared to pierce in with him, get married or start a family yet. When we explain that we would adore for all of that to occur -- eventually -- Frank says it seems some-more like a loyalty than a relationship. That unequivocally hurts me, since I'm trying.
These arguments over my miss of "seriousness" are murdering me. They started dual months into a relationship. we feel pressured. If a vigour continues, I'm feeling like we might not be means to be together. we need your advice, please. -- DOING THE BEST we CAN IN BOSTON
DEAR DOING THE BEST YOU CAN: You are a intelligent immature lady with glorious instincts. Trust them. You feel pressured since we are being pressured. In fact, you're being given a full-court press.
Pushing for a discerning involvement/commitment is one of a warning signs of an abuser. Ask yourself, What's a rush? Find out a reasons since his matrimony failed. Stand your belligerent and don't concede yourself to be pushed into anything we are not totally gentle with. And if it persists, finish a relationship.
DEAR ABBY: I'm saying a advisor for my anxiety, and it bothers me that he yawns via any consultation. He infrequently apologizes for it, though. Is this inapt function for a therapist? -- MIFFED IN NEW JERSEY
DEAR MIFFED: Unless your advisor is carnivorous for oxygen or blazing a candle during both ends, yes, it is. And since it is distracting to we during your sessions, tell him if it doesn't stop, we will have to find another counselor.
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